Author - Julia Menard

From allegation to concern

One of the realities of being human, I’ve come to believe, is that most people are afraid of bringing up conflict. We tend to avoid the issue by either pushing ourselves away (avoiding) or by getting angry and thereby pushing...

Is a conflict grinding you down?

Einstein said: “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” When I wrote Hold On To Yourself – with co-author Judy Zehr, one concept we wanted to share was the...

Feeling valued at work

I am working with one of the best teams in the world! This is a team that actually invests time in its own well-being. They meet regularly to share ideas and coordinate, which a lot of teams do. However, they also meet to be...

Reptiles First

Image courtesy of Creative Commons. In my work, I have often said that we are “animals first.” Sometimes, people interpret that to mean that humans are, therefore, somehow brutish and nasty. What I mean is that our...

Walking out conflict

When we are in conflict, our cortisol levels rise and all manner of dumbing down occurs in our brains. Stressed brains simply do not learn the same way. Conflict is not an intelligence and health enhancer. One new revelation in...

Stress is enhancing and signals growth

There is some new research on stress that might surprise you! Kelly McGonigal, a health researcher, psychologist and Stanford academic has been studying the debilitating effects of stress for over a decade, but then came across a...

Release and relax

Just before Christmas, I had a major setback in my computer life. My harddrive crashed and I lost data from the spring of 2016 to the end of this year. Additionally, I lost all my contacts in my email program and then transferred...

The calm in the conflict

“The more tranquil a man becomes, the greater is his success, his influence, his power for good. Calmness of mind is one of the beautiful jewels of wisdom.” …James Allen   After studying and practicing in the...