Managing Self Wellness

New Year New Role?

Written by Jill Farmer

So often, we start the year thinking about what we need to do in order to finally be enough this year.

I often speak about the flaws in attempting to make affirmative change in your life by using negativism.

It’s fruitless to attempt to verbally abuse yourself (“You’re a fat pig!”, “You lazy sloth!”) into meaningful change.

Frightening yourself (“You’re running short of____!” “You don’t have enough time!”) does not convert into real contentment or prosperity.

For 2016, I urge you to ask yourself this:

Who do you want to be this year?

Constrast the difference between these sentences:

I need to get thinner.
I want to be someone who is healthy.

I need to have more money.
I want to be someone who has a secure financial future.

I need to get rid of the junk and get organized.
I want to be someone who loves her house and enjoys having space to think and create.

Notice the shift?

The result of the second statement in each of these paired sentences will likely be less weight, more fiscal strength, and better organization.

Becoming clearer about who you want to be is a far more solid foundation for launching meaningful change.

Don’t make it arduous or perplexing.

Pause for just a few minutes and jot down some statements about who you want to be in 2016.

Touch base with that list weekly and commit to taking steps (even if they’re baby steps) toward being that person.

About the author

Jill Farmer

I love helping people get more meaningful work done in less time. I am the author of "There's Not Enough Time... and Other Lies We Tell Ourselves" which debuted as a bestseller in the Time Management Category on Amazon. In 2015, The Washington Post named me to its 21-Day Time Hacker team. I travel the world delivering keynotes and seminars for top corporations and organizations. I am also a wife and the mother of two teens and I have the two worst-behaved dogs in the universe. You can reach me at or visit my website

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