I don’t want step on any toes.
Ever had that thought?
This little phrase is one I regularly hear in my coaching sessions.
This is for many very smart people the thought that keeps them playing small.
It is rooted in some closely held core values that can include:
- Teamwork
- Collegiality
- Close relationships
- Cooperation
- Friendship
- Helping
- Loyalty
Those are great values.
Those values can help you move forward and create a full and meaningful life.
Those values can help you to reach for what is meaningful and important for you without stepping on any toes.
This thought I don’t want to step on any toes is rooted in an idea that someone owns the territory. Or there is scarcity.
This thought sets up a false dichotomy: My fulfillment vs important relationships. The lie being that you can’t have both.
Here’s what’s important to know. When you are satisfied and fulfilled at work you increase your capacity for being a good friend, family member, parent, community member. Professional fulfillment gives you the energy you need in other parts of your life. And visa versa.
Don’t sacrifice meaning out of fear.
Instead engage your smart brain and figure out how to navigate the territory.
Next time you think but I don’t want to step on any toes answer these questions:
- What is the meaningful pursuit that this thought is blocking you from taking?
- Why is this meaningful pursuit important to you?
- What are the ways you could move forward with that meaningful pursuit in a positive way and in alignment with your values?
- What is one small next step you can take to move forward?
I know you can move forward without crunching any toes.
You’ve got this.
Your future awaits.
