Redirecting your Path from Languishing to Flourishing

Written by Allison Wolf

Thanks to Adam Grant’s May 2020 article in the New York Times, we now have a word to describe this malaise many of us are experiencing – Languishing.

“Languishing is a sense of stagnation and emptiness. It feels as if you’re muddling through your days, looking at your life through a foggy windshield. And it might be the dominant emotion of 2021.”

The question is how do we combat this? I suggest we start with the opposite of languishing – flourishing.

Martin Seligman, a founding father of the School of Positive Psychology, writes in his book Flourishing that five factors together contribute to flourishing.

  • Positive emotions
  • Engagement
  • Relationships
  • Meaning
  • Accomplishments

Flourishing is not a personality trait. It is a process that requires intentional action.

In collaboration with my colleague, Kathryn McNaughton, we developed 10 coaching questions to get you thinking about simple steps for moving from languishing towards flourishing. Harvard University has also produced an evidence-based guide called “The Flourishing Human Program”. We encourage you to try some of the activities in this guide to move away from languishing and towards flourishing. For so many of us, we need to take a moment to reflect on small, simple steps to move forward and flourish.

Read the full article along with the 10 Coaching questions you should ask yourself and create a more positive outlook for yourself so you can flourish and thrive.

About the author

Allison Wolf

I am the founder of AWAL and one of the most senior coaches for lawyers in North America. I have helped countless clients over the past fifteen years, develop thriving legal practices and before that served as director of marketing for award-winning law firms. My specialty is uncovering the thinking traps and gaps holding clients back and helping them acquire the mindsets, skills, and habits for growing successful and rewarding legal careers. After a career in legal marketing and business development with law firms in Beijing, New York, and Vancouver, I was trained as a coach in 2004 at Royal Roads University and now coach clients from across North America. You can reach me at allison@shiftworks.ca or learn more about my coaching practice from the coaching section of the Attorney With A Life Website.

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